Sunday, February 25, 2007


1. The first secret? The power of THOUGHT.

Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving
thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and
others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs
and desires.

2. The second secret? The power of GIVING.

If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more
love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of
yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of
kindness. Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other
person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able
to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving
relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what
you can take.

3. The third secret? The power of RESPECT.

You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The
first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain
self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain
respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do
I respect about them?"

4. The fourth secret? The power of FRIENDSHIP.

To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not
consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward
together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must
love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the
soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a
relationship, you must first bring friendship.

5. The fifth secret? The power of LETTING GO.

If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's
yours; if it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship,
people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must
first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love
means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today
I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the
beginning of a new life."

6. The sixth secret? The power of COMMUNICATION.

When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To
love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know
that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those
three magic

words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.

Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the
last time you see them! If you were about to die but could make
telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what
would you say and ...why are you waiting?

7. The seventh secret? The power of COMMITMENT.

If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it,
and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving
relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you
are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

8. The eighth secret? The power of PASSION.

Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come
through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment,
enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by
recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and
surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the
same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

9. The ninth secret? The power of TOUCH.

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down
barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and
emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

10. The tenth secret? The power of TRUST.

Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it, one person
becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels
trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely
unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the
person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a
person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them
completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully
before making a commitment.

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